Looking For You

Many times in my life I have been asked what I look for in a wife. I would always respond with the typical answers, Love, kindness, my best friend, ect… Often times I think that we what we want, and what we end up getting change in with time. What we wanted at one point is not want we tend to want at other times. I am not much on destiny because I believe that there is someone out there and that we have to be patient until the lord sees that the time is right. Recently I have become engaged and I finaly realized that all along I was waiting for her (Mary) and what was started sometime before has come full circle and our union completes the blessing. A single heart beating within two souls.

I am back from my vacation

I am back and will make posts this evening. Thanks for your continued support.

Book Of The Week: Rockabye By Rebecca Woolf

 

Review:

In Rebecca Woolf’s new book Rockabye: From Wild to Child, she offers a truly unique perspective on motherhood, after finding herself single and unexpectedly pregnant at age 23. Her rebellious story attacks those old stereotypes about maternal instincts as she admits that motherhood is masochism at its finest. Leader of a new generation of Do-It-Yourself moms, Woolf advocates living by your own rules (and eschewing the advice of parenting manuals) in order to raise fiercely independent children. Her simple tale of getting knocked up will knock your socks off. — Z!nk Magazine

“I just want to get in my car and drive away… somewhere I can hide out and swear and smoke and be alone. But that’s the other side of what it means to be in love. To be passionate is to fantize about throwing it all away.” – From Rockabye

I came across this book a few weeks ago. I read Rebecca’s web blog daily and found her to be spirited, and over whelmingly positive. I read this book and loved it, I wanted to pass it on to my readers.

You can find a copy here

www.amazon.com/Rockabye-Young-Moms-Journey-Child/dp/1580052320/ref=sr_1_2/103-3885091-4349469?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1189821636&sr=1-2

A Social Experience: Reactions…

I have heard this statement for years. “Don’t judge a book on its cover” and although I am not perfect on this I try not to be judgmental. As with everyone I fail at times. I wanted to test this in order to see for myself peoples reactions when meeting people that they do not know. I went to the local library and for four hours I made it a point to interact with as many people that I could and wrote down the results.

To keep some kind of consistency I approached both men and women, trying a different method of introduction for each. With men I just said “Hello, How Are You”. With women I simply smiled and said “Hi.” During the four hours I interacted with 234 people of those 95 were men, and 120 were women and 19 were children.

For the most part I found that 67% of the women reactions were positive. The remaining 33% I either got no reaction, I was completely ignored, or I got a “you have no change stupid” reaction.

Of the men an asounding 88% either nodded, said Hi, or whats up, or some other greeting. The remaning 12% just went on with there business not having any noticeable reaction.

Top three reactions (Women)

• Smile
• Hello
• conversation

Top three reactions (Men)

• Hey
• Whats up
• Nod

I think that people find themselves too busy to even attempt to socialize. They tend to judge too quickly a persons first impression as to whether or not they want to waste the time to actually say “hi” or smile, instead just go on about their business possibly missing out on a good friend, a future relationship, and or a lifetime partner.

So the next time someone smiles, or says “hi” remember in this world full of strangers, someone took time out of their busy day to say “Your important”, and I just wanted to say “hi”

Book Of The Week: Creating Relationship Magic..

Creating Relationship Magic

Whatever you want–whether it’s love, friendship, more passion, a partner on the Spiritual Path, a connected Relationship or a companion of the heart this book will help you identify how you can have it.

With the information in the E-Book, “Creating Relationship Magic”, You’ll discover how to identify and eliminate the biggest challenges and issues we all face in our relationships and start creating the relationship you’ve always wanted in your life.

You’ll discover…

• How to ask for and get what you want in your Relationship
• Why living by the “Golden Rule” doesn’t work in relationships
• How to attract the perfect mate into your life
• How to use the differences between you and your partner to make your relationship stronger instead of dividing you

• The secret to diffusing jealousy before it wrecks your relationship
• What anger really is and the best ways to deal with it when it comes up
• How to eliminate the most common communication challenge and feel free to communicate openly and honestly with everyone in your life
• The most important thing you need to do to feel understood in your relationship
• One of the most intimate things you could ever do create a close, connected relationship with someone without having sex
• How to keep the magic alive long after the honeymoon

And Much More…

If you could create a relationship that was alive, growing, full of passion, had genuine friendship, caring and open honest communication would you be interested?

Whether You are single or with a partner, Creating Relationship Magic Will Give you the Strategies to do it!

This is a great book, Please give it a read…

You can find it online at the following link:

http://www.creatingrelationshipmagic.com/cb.htm?hop=friendlove

A Summer to Remember…

I can remember a summer where I fell in love and out of love over the three month period. I was living in Novato, California. She and I met through a mutual friend. Her sister was dating my best friend at the time. We stayed over at her house one night and I can even after many years still remember every detail. Her sister and my friend were up most of the might and doing what teenage kids do with little or no adult supervision. Deanna and I were shy and I think that this enhanced the experience.

While we heard many noices in the other room for most of the night our night was perfect. I can remember at the start I was nervious never having spent the night at a girls house before, she on the other hand seemed to be ok, maybe it was homefield advantage. We kissed many times in our summer romance but never had sex, I think at that time I did not know what sex was being 12-13 years old at the time and still getting use to all the changes in my body that a boy goes through at that age.

We started in the bathroom painting each others face giggling and having so much fun. Before long we were laughing and taking pictures she was so beautiful I can still remember her eyes, they were the brightest blue I have ever seen, reminded me of a marble I once had, very blue with those little white specks that seem to shimmer in just the right light. We snuck down stairs to get some toast, she loved toast and I kinda thought that was weird, why I am not really sure. We made toast and covered it with butter and jam, had some milk and ate trying not to get caught or make noise.

We finaly climbed into bed and after kissing and talking for more than an hour I can remember she fell asleep with her head lying on my chest, her hair in my face and at that moment I just layed there smiling one arm wrapped tightly around her until I fell asleep. This one night, this one experience proved to be the most memorable in my life. its weird I can remember every detail about that night, the smells, sounds, names, ect… as if it was yesterday.

In most if not all of my adult relationships there is a memory, maybe a few that I take with me and can reflect on later. However that night many years ago I can recall every single detail. I think that it’s these moments that define us, these first experiences that make lasting impressions that pave the way for each and every other relationships. One of my favorite things is to be in bed, holding her while she sleeps with her head on my chest brushing her hair away from my lips. In this moment I am again 12 years old holding Deanna thinking about what life has instore for me as I smile and slowly fall asleep. In that one pure moment life is perfect.